There is something very missed today, many of us feel it, some never have because they have not been exposed to this because it is becoming rare. It is not too late because all we have to do is become what is needed.
This person was unassuming, modest, polite, pleasant. Did not wish for attention and quietly went on with work without any want for attention. This person was settled, pleasant, humble and there was such comfort that I had a desire to resemble this unassuming person.
In my past of long ago I could describe many people that were unassuming and gentle, one would have been my Aunt Ruth. I have mentioned her before in my posts. Aunt Ruth was a seamstress and I did not have an opportunity to visit her very often but when I was a child she left a lasting impression in my memory.
Her simple home with fabric and notions all about. Her gentle manner and her button box that she would generously let me spend as much time as I wanted looking through her buttons.
I would look for the sparkly or colorful buttons and see if I could find a match to them. My hands were smaller and younger than they are now ,but the memory is still there every time I go looking for a button.
* Never throw out a worn garment before you have removed the buttons.
Those rare visits with my Aunt Ruth were part of who I am. Don't you see, everything we do, no matter if it is an encounter in the grocery store makes a difference only if it is making eye contact or a smile or have an interesting button box.
Our children or grandchildren or nieces and nephews or a neighbors child or a teen or most anyone, especially an exhausted young mother, need to be around an unassuming person because this is very comforting to them and so much better than being around someone that desires attention. Each time I went to visit with my grandmother I could feel my body drop the mental baggage that came with me. We can change things about ourselves, when we let go of ego.
Have you ever had a friend or family member to stop in and hold and rock your fussy baby while you prepare a meal or do a task? There is no value to put on that type of kindness to an exhausted parent. We seem to have stopped what makes sense. The covid changed many of us because we had to avoid one another for a good while but now we need to make an effort to do a restart but not go back to how it was, to do it better this time.
Be the mother or Auntie or neighbor that keeps club crackers in the sugar bowl. My grandmother always had cold biscuits up on the shelf, some kept mints or butterscotch. Charles Grandfather kept a chocolate candy bar with the squares you break off. He would break off one square and instruct him that is all you eat. He remembers those squares of chocolate to this day. Sometimes it is the small things that make the best memories. So much today is extreme because it seems everyone is trying to go bigger and better but is that really better?
Are our children today going to have enough quiet in their lives to be able to remember anything about their childhood? Today there is too much of everything to be able to notice the best things.
I am concerned at the direction people are going and I want so badly to help people to understand that love and happiness does not cost anything.
My Aunt Ruth and my Grandmother were absolutely unassuming, add love to that ten times fold. They were not ones to raise their voices and their quiet ways would make me want to be with them even more.
We can be like this by not busying ourselves with what others are doing, make our home comfortable and clean under the clutter. Simmer some broth on the stove for nourishment. Set aside a time to enjoy a cup of something with a friend, a mate, an auntie, your grandmother, your children or your pet.
It is all about love. Grandma Donna
